Lots of love to all who is going through it. I pray for us all. They can just say that you threatened their life and you go to jail…. The courts are forced by this law to incarcerate you for up to 72 hours and possibly longer! No stranger did this to me….. I was not charged with any crime. There are no ongoing investigations. I did nothing wrong! I went to jail anyway. There are only 2 laws in America that allow a constitutional right to be taken from you without due process trial by jury domestic violence…..
I need a lawyer…. One was like a used car salesman. Supervised visits? I havent done anything wrong. He was on her side from the onset of the conversation. Because I was a man I was quilty by default.
That is the mind set in these situations. One lawyer said because the judge has already ruled that it is to late.
How can it be to late to stop my children from suffering? I need a REAL attorney! I have had my children, my home, my life taken from me by my wife and the court system all based on a LIE! She falsely accussed me of hitting her. I did no such thing. I never have! She has punched me in the face in front of our children and admits to it but the court did not care about that.
If I was the kind of man who could hit a woman that would have been the time. But I did not hit her even then. I tried to calm her down. She has hit me with a 4 foot metal level while building shelves in the garage and fractured my arm and I did not hit her back. I dont hit women. I never have and never will. Im not innocent in the involvement. We were arguing but she knew I would not hit her back. When she called She told them that I was a Navy Seal and that I had guns and she used that against me.
I was and still am willing to give my life for you and her. When I joined the military I fought for all and for freedom and justice! I was tossed out into the streets.. A broken heart can kill you. I lost 55 pounds in a few months. Being a Seal, they teach you how to survive. They dont teach you how to survive betrayal from the one you love. God does. To be a Seal you have to be willing to die for what you are doing.
The ultimate love is willing to die for another. In the real world with loving my wife…there is no defense and none needed…love is long suffering Galatians ….. John I have researched every avenue I can find for a solution to this problem. I have lived in a tent and took the cheapest rentals available to save money for a lawyer. I was told the longer they are with the mother the less chances I have of getting custody.
How insane is that? The courts gave them to her based on a lie and it compounds itself daily. Im not liking American justice to much right now. The rest of this is my nightmare I live daily. I do not like drama and shy away from it but it is in my face and I have to deal with it. I will write on the points to condense a really lengthy experience. This is truth though. Maybe I shouldnt use this site as a way to express my beliefs and experiences but I am going to anyway. It is hard to get the point across without doing so.
I have no pride…. I know worse things have happened to others. We can just accept it and do nothing or try our best to do what is right to fight. If you want to hear what I have to say then read on…. Keep in mind I am focussing on mostly the bad times to make my point.
I thought we were like everyone else experiencing some hardship along with blessings….. I also must say that I am guilty of not being the husband I should have been. I used truth as a hammer when I caught her in a lie.
I should have been kind and gentle. Actually in the beginning I was kind and gentle. Thats why she married me. Over the years the distrust grew worse. So did my reactions to her repeated lies. But I still should have been a better Christian. I should have been nurturing, patient, more loving.
My anger made things worse. That is my sin, my fault. I have always taken care of me and my own. I am employed and have always worked hard for what I had.
Even being a house …husband….. I have an appreciation for all of you mothers who try your best to make a happy home for your children! A week prior to being incarcerated I caught my wife in yet another lie….
Her family sits in church pews, sing in the choir and respect her highly. My wife hasnt sat in a church pew for 20 years.
They dont know who she is behind closed doors or at parties or with her friends. She cut me out of that years ago. She knows I would find out eventually about her lie so she pulled the trigger first to cover her sin. She cares more about what her family thinks about her than God Himself. That week previous to me being jailed I saw her with another man and I asked her about it.
She lied to me about what I saw with my own eyes. I let it go and did not question her anymore about it for a week. A week later we left the kids with her mother and we went out to dinner. This man pointed me out to her. There wasnt anyone near me with on either side. Did he know me?
I didnt know him. She denied all of that and more. It makes me wonder how ridiculous some people are willing to be to deny the truth. When me and her got home she called She lied to the Deputy Sheriff, the judge and her family. They did not care what I had to say! She pointed the finger first and that is all that mattered!
The DV law states that if they just say…… you threatened them with bodily harm…the courts have no choice but to act. The next day…ya the next day…the Dept Sheriffs had guns drawn and treated me like I just murdered someone!
If I would have flinched they would have killed me…they said so!.. There were 3 cars and 3 Dept Sheriffs. Her mother had gotten involved. Her family has influence in this pville town. Then they saw I was not some crazy killer and he actually gave me double hand cuffs because of my build. They were nice and realized she was a liar! I was not as she depicted!
I was jailed for 3 days.. I lost 55 pounds and almost died of heat stroke and dehydration broken heart and no one cared. I lived in the streets. I learned quickly what being homeless is like. I aged 10 years in 2 months, my hair fell out. It has been 9 months and I have since gotten back on my feet and am continuing to fight back. I have saved up a few thousand but realize after talking to many lawyers it is not even close to being enough to get justice served.
I have three boys 5, 6 and 8. I am not allowed to see them. I was a good father. There was not a single mention of me being a bad father during all 3 court hearings. My abilities as a father was never in question! That is because I was a wonderful father. But the judge did not care and neither did my wife. The judge gave her full custody and left it up to her if I see my boys or not!
Her family has influence. I dated my wife for 7 years and married 8. She tossed 15 years away like it was nothing. I tried to reconcile. Being a Christian I have to forgive and willing to do so. Even if she did commit adultery.
But she was unwilling. Her family is more important than me and our children. What kind of person can do this to her own children? Maybe Im better off but they are not. I put everything into our lives and relationship. When she got pregnant with our first child it made financial sense for me to stay home with the baby. I still made 30k a year staying at home. She whole heartedly agreed.
Her job was a mile down the street. Mine was 65 miles away 5 days a week and I didnt get paid for drive time. We then had 2 more wonderful boys together over the next few years.
I raised them all from birth. I was Mr. Remember this is 15 years in the making. I was a happy man for the most part. Love will blind you. Can at least you women reading this understand the bonds developed when you raise a child from birth? These were my boys, my babies…I changed thier diapers, fed them breakfast, lunch and dinner, as they grew older I took them to school, made their lunches, helped them with their home work, read stories , sang to them putting them to sleep, took them fishing, played games with them, explored insects, growing gardens, building things, teaching them and letting them be boys!
Im crying now. My wife was a good mother also. She sang to them and played with them……we were happy for the most part. Another troubling memory …She came home one day after work and the boys wanted to give her a hug and she stopped them with a hand to the forehead and walked straight to the computer and started typing. In all fairness my wife did fun things with out boys also…she was there and knows the truth i have been saying in all of this. She is not an evil person. I dont want to make her out to be like that.
She has always lied when it comes to other men. She cant help it. She had lied to me many times before I married her. I just thought that eventually she would learn the importance of trust in a relationship.
The years went by and her core values had already been set and truth wasnt one of them. I called her work one day and her friend answered the phone. I tried to get a case going about that and like the last she wouldnt do it. Ya that was the second sexual harassment case she turned down.
The first was with a doctor. Our female lawyer said it was a slam dunk!! Three witnesses! You wont even have to pay me. The catch was that the defending attorney may research if anyone of the three has a history of promiscuity. When she said that Jess folded….. I thought she was protecting her friends….. Or defense against your own sins? I have wondered for years. To pass up millions………well all righty then!
It has me. We all want to believe the best in those we love, like her mother and family believing in her. I did the same. The promiscuity at her work place got the best of her.
She had already told me that in her group of 5 close friends all but one had cheated on their husbands. Or maybe one of many. Only her and her friends and the guys thay have had sex with know the truth. The judge gave her full custody. A few lawyers and detectives said that Judge is dirty. Further more they say he is not qualified to be a family judge. One lawyer said they are trying to have him removed as a family judge.
They said that the judge believes because he has grand children he is qualified. Two lawyers said I need a change of venue. But before it even got to the judge, I was jailed for 3 days all based on a lie! No proof needed! That law needs to be amended! I was told by a lawyer that there is another law that the Dept sheriffs could use but requires more paper work and getting a judge to sign. It is easier to put people in jail and the jail system gets money from it…tax dollars waisted.
They sure got their money out of me. I am and was a good father. Every lawyer says that doesnt make sense and doesnt understand it. They say even bad parents get to see their children……….. He should have at minimum gave me visitation.
The story in full is much worse and complex….. Three days in jail with no communication to anyone outside to find out what is going on…. I didnt think my wife was leaving me until I got home. Her and the boys were gone. No one would answer any phones. Then I was forced to leave my own home by court order. I couldnt sleep or eat much for weeks. I slept an hour a night and when I awoke my mind would start racing with anxiety and uncertainty.
Every few days I would break down and sleep for 4 to 6 hours anywhere that felt safe and then go through another few days of 1 hour a night sleep. My mind was mush. I had no appitite and suffered like a prisoner in a 3rd world country. When I finally went to court about 30 days after jail and seeing the love of my life for the first time in a month I cried like a baby.
My mind was toast. I was suffering from extreme depression, lack of sleep and food. I cried in front of the arbitrator arbitraitor and he used that against me. He even twisted my words when he wrote his report. In a few of his sentences he out right lied! I thought I was there talking to him because of the restraining order, to defend myself against her allegations. I did not know it was about child custody. I blew it at the starting gate. I made him angry by questioning him.
At one point we even argued. He is his own god in his world. His words to the judge carry all the weight! Or that maybe this guy just had everything taken from him and tossed out onto the streets with nothing…. There is no room or allowance for sympathy or understanding in our courts. Hard cold evil at its best. Its all about the money now.
Im confident if the role would have been reversed the court would have ruled differently. Her being female they would have given her her rights to see the boys. At least some kind of visitation. I have none because I am a man? I have cried for hours every single day for many many months. I still cry daily but am able to suppress it quicker. I cry when I see families together, children playing, before I go to sleep….
Time does not heal all wounds! I think of my boys daily! I love my wife anyway! I refuse to be cold and callused! It is all about love! But I am forced to fight for my boys! Why is this possible? Has it always been this way and I am just now noticing? I am in month 9 and still suffer daily. Jesus Christ has sustained me. I have been a Christian since I was Im not perfect but I do my best to love everyone and have understanding, compassion and patience. Even through all of this I still love my wife and even my mother in law.
They need help to understand what they are doing to my boys. They just dont get it! My mother in law really believes she is doing what is right. My wife is unable to care about it. It is one thing to say you care and another to actually do something about it. My wife told me her father never told her he loved her. Over the years I have seen what that impact has done. She has never been able to discuss problems or feelings. My mother in law is a retired 30 year 1st grade school teacher.
Her years of experience has turned her into a cold calussed teacher. She has dealt justice to children who suffer beyond her own control….
She is numb to my boys pain. She will say differently but in reality…. I have seen it first hand. I thought how sad. The Judge said in the restraining order I can only talk to her through text only about the boys visitations. She has been trying to control me since she got this opportunity.
She did not like me from the start. I know now why Jess is that way now. That is a religious self rightous, I can do no wrong or I will burn forever mentality. My wife is a liar and taking advantage of everyone believing she is the victim. The only lies I know of are the ones I caught her in.
It makes me wonder how many do I not know about? Six months prior to me being jailed I caught her lying and she promised me back then she would never lie to me again.
She said she had to work late one friday night. She didnt, she went to a party with her friends, at a mans house. I was home with our children. This isnt just my fight it truly is all of ours! It can happen to you or someone you love! I now I see that I will have to pay taxes on these donations. If we can set a precedence in my case or any of the countless thousands who have been falsely accused ………we all will benefit.
In reality…………. What about them in divorce? America is a waist land of children hurt by separation because of lust…anger…. The last time I saw my boys January I dropped them off with the mother in law after a visit with me. They were crying and telling my mother in law…. It truly is her and my wifes fault! They did take them from me! Even a child can see and understand that.
Mine live it every day. My mother in law now blames me for that. She says it is my fault that the boys are upset for being taken from their father. I am no longer allowed to see them…. Their goal could be:. Under certain circumstances, lying about domestic violence is a crime. Perjury is when an individual lies under oath during an official investigation, either in a written or verbal statement.
While individuals who lie about domestic violence may be charged with perjury, it is extremely rare. Additionally, the accuser could be charged with filing a false police report , a misdemeanor offense. The individual who was falsely accused may file a civil lawsuit against the accuser to receive compensation for any damages caused by the allegation. If you have been falsely accused of domestic violence, you need to act fast.
In fact, this is perhaps the most common reason for such false claims. As a couple nears separation or divorce, these false claims often arise — especially when children are involved and child custody becomes an issue.
False claims of domestic abuse or violence may be made to subvert the legal process in order for the accuser to gain the upper hand in legal proceedings leading to divorce and establishing child custody. Unless a false claim is disproved, the accused person may lose more financially in the divorce settlement, and he or she also may lose partial or total custody of a child or children. A false claim of family violence may also be made by one parent in order to turn a child or children against the other parent.
Even if the claim of domestic violence is later proven false, the damage may already have been done, casting a bad light on the accused parent that children may find hard to ignore. When a divorce or child custody battle is not involved, a false claim of domestic violence may be made when one party is vindictive toward the other and wants to exact revenge. Or maybe a heated argument occurs and is misconstrued as actual violence.
Perhaps only shouting was involved, and no physical abuse or violence happened. Or perhaps physical contact was limited to grabbing an arm or a hand, but without actual violence. A claim still could be made that violence occurred, and that claim would have to be disproved by the accused.
As for who can be considered the victim of family violence or domestic assault, Texas law holds that it can be a spouse, a former spouse, foster parents, foster children, a child of a spouse or former spouse, a person with whom the defendant had offspring outside of marriage, or a member of a family by blood relation, adoption or marriage.
Family violence can also involve a roommate, a nanny and a current or former dating partner. As for what activity constitutes a domestic assault under Texas law, that includes a person deliberately, recklessly or knowingly causing bodily injury to another person, such as by hitting, punching or kicking, as well as by attacking with a weapon.
Kidnapping and unlawful confinement can also be considered domestic assaults under Texas law. In addition to physical violence, threatening another person with imminent bodily injury can be considered an assault in itself, in the form of emotional abuse. A domestic assault can involve knowingly or deliberately causing physical contact with someone when the person who causes the contact knows, or reasonably should believe, that it will be perceived as provocative or offensive. For example, perhaps a woman is known to be sensitive to having any physical contact during a heated argument.
If her spouse or partner touches her in any way at such a time, even in a non-violent manner, that could be considered domestic abuse or assault. Even temporarily blocking or shutting a door during a heated argument could constitute abuse. Under VAWA, a spouse or family member who feels unsafe or threatened could claim domestic violence, even though no physical injury has occurred.
The long-term consequences of domestic violence claims — even if they are unfounded and false — can be debilitating and life-changing for the defendant. For starters, a restraining order may be issued against the accused, preventing him or her from returning home and seeing their children.
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